One of the most difficult challenges for couples is getting them to
see beyond their own entrenched perspectives, to acknowledge
a partner's radical otherness and appreciate difference and
sovereignty. [. . .] To be truly open to your partner's experience,
you must relinquish your conviction in the righteousness of your
own position; this requires humility and the courage
to tolerate uncertainty. [. . .]
[. . . ] Love is ultimately measured by people's capacity to see
and care about the other person, as [that other person is];
succeeding in this effort is how people in relationships grow.
~ Dr. Orna Guralnik
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Dr. Orna Guralnik, Clinical Psychologist, Psychoanalyst, and Academic (New York University Postdoctoral Program in Psychoanalysis); Therapist, Showtime's "Couples Therapy"; Writer
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