One of the most difficult challenges for couples is getting them to
see beyond their own entrenched perspectives, to acknowledge
a partner's radical otherness and appreciate difference and
sovereignty. [. . .] To be truly open to your partner's experience,
you must relinquish your conviction in the righteousness of your
own position; this requires humility and the courage
to tolerate uncertainty. [. . .]
[. . . ] Love is ultimately measured by people's capacity to see
and care about the other person, as [that other person is];
succeeding in this effort is how people in relationships grow.
~ Dr. Orna Guralnik
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Quoted from Dr. Orna Guralnik, "I'm a Couples Therapist. Something New Is Happening in Relationships" in The New York Times, May 16, 2023; Online (Audio of the article is available online. A version of the article appeared in print in the Sunday New York Times Magazine on May 21, 2023, p. 37. The entire article is well-worth reading.)
Dr. Orna Guralnik, Clinical Psychologist, Psychoanalyst, and Academic (New York University Postdoctoral Program in Psychoanalysis); Therapist, Showtime's "Couples Therapy"; Writer
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Maureen,
My name is James and I am the faculty sponsor for our high school radio station here in rural Tennessee (www.sasradio.org). Our broadcasting students are working on a new radio show called “Poetry for Today” which is a show that features original poems by our students interspersed with poems from new and established poets. We would like to ask permission to read your beautiful poem “Love is a lot like Physics“ for our radio show. It will also be read on KPBX public radio in Spokane, WA! The focus of several of the poems-including yours is the intersection of Science and Poetry. Your poem fits so beautifully into that category, and I love the "snarky" surprise ending! Ha!
We will be happy to link to your website or publisher citing you, but hope that you will give us permission to read it on the air! Thanks so much! JR Ankney, jankney@sasweb.org and 423-635-8960. Www.sasradio.org
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